post on geldings and mares thank you Lytha for this informative information. I had no idea!). I know introduction into a herd has to be a process but...I have no idea why geldings can't be with mares, I've seen it before and it seems to work fine. If I end up with a mare she'll be in a single paddock with another mare or two and next to other paddocks with mares. The paddocks were pretty nice at least. Geldings get the best deal though!
The outdoor arena did not have a fence which is fine it's just going to be a mental change for me since there isn't that security! It's a full size dressage arena with the letters. I'm not familiar with the lettering of arenas so that might not do much for me to begin with.
One stable I still do like I would have to go into the persons home to use the restroom and that just makes me feel uncomfortable. Sometimes I just want to go ride my horse and not have other people aware of my bathroom needs, especially if it's in their house. I like the stables that have a bathroom or at least a porta potty so I can just run and go without feeling like I have to ask permission like a little kid.
Unfortunately the odds of me finding a mare is pretty high. The rescues I'll start my search at seem to have mostly mares right now. As long as she's not overly reactive and sensitive I'm fine with that. Rescues for the most part are so upfront about their horses since they don't want to see them coming back that if a mare is "mareish" I'm pretty sure they will be upfront about that. But anyways, it just bums me out that if I get a mare she can't be in this nice big paddock!